Anonyme: Hey. So thanks to you and some others I realized I'm not a guy. So first off, thanks for that. Second off, I'm not sure where to go from here. The nb community on here feels really intimidating to me, partially because of what looks like from a distance to be a war between AFAB and AMAB people, which is confusing to me. Are these not the things we're trying to get away from? Why aer people identifying with these terms?
first of all, congratulations.
second, i really hope there’s not a war.
some people talk about distinctions between amab and afab nb folks as a way of talking about how misogyny operates in queer and nb spaces.
i dont really like those terms because i think they have a tendency to reinscribe birth assignment back onto people who have made identity choices aimed specifically at getting away from those assignments.
as for practicality, never feel like you’re required to associate with someone on here if their discourse and/or the arguments they’re getting into are making you uncomfortable. your nonbinariness does not have to be predicated on birth assignment, nor do you have to make analysis based on that assignment central or meaningful to your life.